Yes, you read it right. I gave away my purity ring. Now, let’s start from the beginning. Back in the day, when I was in 6th grade, this ring was called a “promise ring”. It was given to me by my dad and mom (who are the best of the best) and by definition, this ring represented a promise to myself, my parents, my future husband and most importantly to God, that I would save myself for marriage and stay physically pure from sex until my wedding. Well in sixth grade that sounded like a GREAT trade off in order to receive this gorgeous gold ring with a ruby and a diamond in it that my mom and dad had made in Ireland for me!! I mean come on… nobody in 6th grade has their VERY OWN DIAMOND (that you may have needed a magnifying glass to see, but hey, I was NOT complaining!) Over the years this ring became so much more to me than “just a diamond”. I actually decided I no longer wanted to call this ring my “promise ring”. The reason for this was because this was the name that had been coined by the “industry” as a ring a boy gave to a girl to tell her he “promises to marry her..or be with her…or love her…” (I’m not actually sure WHAT these rings actually mean to be honest..) So I started referring to my ring as my PURITY ring; even to complete strangers at the airport when I worked there! Strangers’ reactions to it were always the best….mainly since I was super open about what it meant. Their second question was always “how old are you?” Ha!
Of course there were tons of skeptics. Friends in high school assumed I would get to college and “loose my ring”. Then college friends just assumed I still wore it even though I had a boyfriend..and that it did not mean anything anymore. But let me tell you.. IT DID! I became more and more open and honest about exactly WHAT that ring was doing on my finger. I also figured it scared off
creepy the kind of men I may not want to date. Trust me. I had a plan for this ring and had not waited all this time to just stop wearing it or suddenly decide to give myself to a guy… I was waiting for THE ONE. And so I did. When my husband proposed he got to hold onto my purity ring and replace it with my engagement ring.
My plan was executed perfectly on my wedding day. In the morning, I had my purity ring on as I got ready, as I saw E for the first time in my white wedding gown and as I walked down the aisle hand in hand with my dad. When we got to the top of the aisle, my dad slowly slipped off the purity ring that he had placed on that very hand and handed it to E. (I’m totally tearing up writing this…) My dad is a good man and had such good intentions for me at that young age..and although I am sure my parents worried about me, that day they were both beaming with pride that I had indeed waited for E. I can’t tell you enough that ITS WORTH THE WAIT!!! I’ll leave it at that 🙂 I thank the Lord everyday for his protection, provision and for helping me see the light at the end of the tunnel that was E! At the top you saw my rings side by side. So much meaning in both of them!
I dedicate this post to Sam and Em, and to any other young woman out there who is wondering how she will stay pure until her wedding day. Stay strong. You are doing the right thing and I am SO SO proud of you. I would love to hear your story!
Luke 1:47 “Nothing is impossible with God”
Photography by: Pawel Bebenca Photography in Ireland